My friend Liz gave me this soap dish. I love what it says…. so true isn’t it?
I decided this month of November to take the month off of TV, media and social media because it’s causing too much clutter in my spiritual being. I didn’t realize until this past month that I just spend way to much time watching my favorite shows, watching the news etc.
My plan is to spend more time with God, His word and listening to all He has to speak into my life. There is too much noise in the world. I am going to spend this time cultivating my friendship with Jesus and with my friends.
I truly love the Lord and therefor I can truly love my friends. Wait but what is a friend? What does friendship look like? How is it a strong defense?
I remember when my kids were little they used to always meet some kid in the park or in school and say “mom he’s my friend” but wouldn’t remember the name of the kid….lol
Friend: defined as a person whom one loves and trusts. A close companion or comrade.
Well that eliminates lots of people huh?
Let’s look at David and Johnathan’s friendship:
1 Samuel 18:1-4
18 As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. 2 And Saul took him that day and would not let him return to his father’s house. 3 Then Jonathan made a covenant with David, because he loved him as his own soul. 4 And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was on him and gave it to David, and his armor, and even his sword and his bow and his belt.
- I love that it says their souls were knit together! Do you have a friend that you feel you were cut from the same cloth? I do.
- Johnathan made a covenant with David because he loved him with his own life… that’s the way Jesus loves us, we are literally worth dying for… He proved that.
- Johnathan stripped his robe, his armor, and his weapons and gave it to David.
He was willing to get “naked”, vulnerable and “raw” and not go against him. When Johnathan did this he was telling David, all that I have is yours, including my life. I will always be truthful, transparent and willing to fight with you in all your battles. Now that’s a friend…
We need to choose our friends carefully and wisely. We need to have friends that will encourage us and refresh us.
God is our ultimate friend! He also gives us the gift of friendships here in this world.
Be selective when choosing your real friends, not everyone has to be a friend. Even the Lord warns us to be careful. The whole chapter of Proverbs 18 talks about the character of what we should and shouldn’t be like or be around.
Proverbs 18:1-2, 24
1An unfriendly person pursues selfish ends and against all sound judgment starts quarrels. 2Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions.
24One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
A friend who is more interested in themselves or the world will show to be a bad friend. But like Jesus who will stick to you closer than a brother, you need to find those who will stick with you even when you are at your worse.
Really good friendships are hard to find. Be careful of the people you surround yourself with because people can be contagious.
24 Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, 25 or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.
If you are around a complainer, a negative thinker, a gossiper, a angry person, constantly because they are “friends”, be careful because you can get sucked right into that trap. Before you know it you are also doing those things and you don’t even know how it all started…
Friends are supposed to “buff” each other. They are supposed to encourage, correct, approve, sharpen, be honest, truthful, and aid when needed.
Proverbs 27:17 (NLT)