We lost our beautiful Gillian 2 years ago and this Saturday we celebrated her 21st birthday! I had the honor to speak at her memorial birthday celebration.
Jesus reminded me of a very powerful lesson I learned from TD Jakes. Here is my speech and video.
Gillian went straight to my heart when I met her 17 years ago, she was around 4 years old… She was such a beautiful little peanut. I asked her name and she said Gillian with a G.
She is funny, witty, daring, sneaky at times and a little sarcastic but huge heart and full of love, forgiveness and joy.
Last week, when my sister in law told me to say a few words, I was honored and I also was a little scared because I had no idea what I was going to say that you all here don't already know.
You're all here because you love her, care about her and miss her dearly I'm sure!
When I went for a walk a couple of days ago I asked God, what do you want me to say about your daughter Gillian?
I felt in my heart and saw this vision.
Take a $100 bill and ask everyone, how much is this worth? $100 right.
Then crumple it up, now how much is this worth? $100 right, then stomp on it on the ground. How much is this worth? $100 right?
Then give it to someone. From my hands to your hands, And ask them, how much is it worth to them? $100 right.
The worth doesn't change just because the circumstances do.
Gillian life is worth everything when she was here on earth with us as she is worth everything now as she is in heaven with God. The circumstances are different but her worth is still valuable.
The tragedy that happened does not erase her worth. It transitioned her from this world to the heavenly places.
We cannot do the disservice of just narrowing her memory and worth to a tragic moment because she is worth more than that moment.
We have an enemy that comes to kill, steal and destroy.
But there is a God and He is absolutely real! I promise you. I'm not saying it to comfort anyone, I'm saying it is absolute, if you do not believe me do yourself a favor and research the truth of God, because if you do not believe that He is real then why are you here? Doesn't that mean that you feel she just ended? Well she didn't. She is more alive today than she was before, than me and you are right now, I believe that to my core. I hope you do to.
In closing I wanted to read this beautiful Jewish poem: I’m sure we have a few people we will always remember.
We Remember Them by Sylvan Kamens & Rabbi Jack Riemer
At the rising sun and at its going down; We remember them.
At the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter; We remember them.
At the opening of the buds and in the rebirth of spring; We remember them.
At the blueness of the skies and in the warmth of summer; We remember them.
At the rustling of the leaves and in the beauty of the autumn; We remember them.
At the beginning of the year and when it ends; We remember them.
As long as we live, they too will live, for they are now a part of us as We remember them.
When we are weary and in need of strength; We remember them.
When we are lost and sick at heart; We remember them.
When we have decisions that are difficult to make; We remember them.
When we have joy we crave to share; We remember them.
When we have achievements that are based on theirs; We remember them.
For as long as we live, they too will live, for they are now a part of us as, We remember them.
We remember Gillian with a G, I know you are alive and well, and we will meet again. Love you dearly.